When I was five, my stepbrother molested me. Not only did he grope me as a prepubescent child... he made me touch him. As an adult woman, I still have moments of anxiety when being with my husband. Things that should be erotic and pleasant are sources of emotional distress. Instead I shut down and don't get into sex. It wasn't until last year that a male member of the family came forward with his abuse.
I spoke to my counselor about this. At least three known abused children; two female and one male. And all the asshole got was maybe 4-5 years in prison. I was the luckiest one as I did not get raped. The male was and he was positioning near the female (at 3) when one of her parents came home early. The odds of rehabilitation are VERY slim. Pedophiles of this nature don't discriminate on their prey. And it's very likely he still exhibits the same wants and desires.
And he is married with three children and a fourth on the way. I've been told to forgive and forget but I am just terrified that those children will come forward someday with accusations of abuse. They would never be normal. Sex and intimacy would be completely tainted for all of them. If they grow up to be similar to me (which is very normal with abused children) they will have multiple partners because they are certain they deserve nothing more.
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